Oh My Gawd!
I did it.
I quit my job!
For reasons too numerous to mention, the thought had been swirling in my head for a few months. My hubby and I discussed finances and the like and he began encouraging me to quit several months ago. I held out for a few reasons.
1) I loved my career.
2) I have never NOT worked outside the house
4) How would I identify myself?
Think about that last one a minute, WHen you meet a stranger, first they tell you their name, then they tell you their occupation. UHm, I no longer have one. There is a gap in my introduction. “HI, My Name is Inez and I am a…what?” What am I now?
I am a mother of 3, but that makes no impression on many people. I am a wife and a daughter and a sister. Again, so what? What value does that have in society? I have many stay at home friends who twist words and say they are Domestic Engineers. While it is a shame that women who dedicate their days and nights to preparing the next generation do not get the respect they deserve, it is a fact.
For decades, I have labeled myself one way or the other so that OTHERS would see my value. And that bites. I shouldn’t have to justify my choices to anyone. But Bite though it does, it is the way of the world. So now, according to those unwritten rules, my worth just plummeted in some eyes.
May their lips meet my behind in a puckered pose.
I choose to call myself a Writer. It is what I have always done but now, I will be able to do it for more hours a day. “Hi, my name is Inez and I am a Writer.”
Mary Sue characters in romances of decades ago were relegated to nurses or secretaries or teachers. Nice, safe, feminine jobs they could be whisked away from by the dashing hero who would validate them as women by the coveted title of MRS. HERO. Thankfully, that fell by the wayside and today’s female characters are not only able to stand on their own feet but firmly refuse to budge when said hero appears on that white horse. They are Fiefighters and Doctors and Scientists and business women with acute talents and abilities that do not pertain strictly to their ovaries. MRS. be damned, they do not need it. They have validated their own worth. ROAR WOMAN ROAR!
I refuse to be labeled by anyone but myself. I am not unemployed. I am a Writer. True, as of yet an unpaid one but that will change (Hailmaryfullofgraceplease). Even if it doesn’t, it doesn’t change the fact that in my soul, that is who I am.
I am a Writer, a mother of 3, a wife, daughter, sister, friend, cook, maid, library volunteer, and a slew of other things. I have value because I CHOOSE to have faith in myself. I am validating my own life.
Do I take a step backward? Nope, I took a step forward, to my future, my destiny, my dream. To write.
One small step for Inez, One giant leap for an Author.